February, what could or would come this time of the year, when we are again climbing up the mountain, in the case of those who work and in the case of those who study? January was like a settlement onto those things where we made a parenthesis, but February is the real expression of getting across the road or at least getting involved in it. Then why expectations… well, it could be our expectations concerning this year, if we were wishing before, now is the time when we can work in all the things we were thinking could be better to improve. For example: work again. And what about motivations? Well… this case excuse me but there is no connection or not in the way as I see. Last months I was thinking about this word because there’s a lot of movements in here, my friends’ lives or even mine. Everyone is sometimes worried or asking herself or himself, which way people’s actions or “special movements” base their motivations on? And, what about the mixture between motivations-expectations?
There’s now the time when I go to ask to my friends or listen to them, what are them asking about others (by themselves), what’s people motivation to act in this or that way… I didn’t get an exclusive answer or a special trick, just to guess what’s in people’s minds. But what I found as a very reliable palliative was not asking ourselves much about the others. Could be people is more simple than we thought or there should be some realities that might be not told… who knows. Not me of course.
So I decided instead of getting back to my work of special “gravedigger” I decided no to ask so many things. In the end, answers will come out with time, because people sometimes is not able or not brave to tell all they have in their minds. We also are the same line so… what to do then? I would give myself and you, if you find it practical, not to ask so much when you see what’s clear or when you don’t want to see what’s clear. If your desired job turns bad and you see it’s obvious your relation to your buss is no longer stabled as the “honey-moon” it used to be, if your partner tells you is not able to work with you anymore ‘cause found a better way to sell cold beers by his/her own, or if your boyfriend/girlfriend can’t be with you anymore or cheat on you or your lover just decided to take holidays to Madagascar leaving you with the tickets to fly… There are in my very personal opinion two ways to confront, accepting and continue walking or asking yourself forever what was wrong. It’s a fact we should consider what we did wrong, but certainly as far as I know there’s still no special machine that translates us why people change suddenly. Sometimes could be our mistake, sometimes could be in purpose and sometimes could be people or the moon! Even people, like us, they don’t know sometimes how to act in the correct way. It’s always easy to judge the rest but harder to understand there might be nothing and nothing that was your fault; it just came that (unlucky) day to your life.
With this I should thank some friends who motivated me to write this and to find out that could be sometimes there’s nothing to do. Some other surprises came to my life last nights and found out that could be that those things or matters you thought were lost suddenly appear in a different context.
In whichever way this can help you not to blame yourself or the others from different successes in life… then we are at the other side.
I would like to complete this with a very important thing,
Good luck and happy cheesy Valentine’s Day, we could even prepare a surprise with a welcome back from Love and Mars. Stay Tune!
From our old friend of the happy meal girlfriend we’ve got:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crqM-Hmx5rY
And from the jealous brother we took the best of his play list to give you a particular (hope not offensive for those who love good music) song by our girly girly dear friend:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=whfmqZrwoxI&feature=PlayList&p=D374080675CFFDAA&index=0&playnext=1
Happy Thursday!
